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What exactly is being in love all about?

Ever wondered what is love? How to differentiate love from infatuation? Being an avid reader, I have personally come across several, several and several quotes that go on and on about love. And then, i came across this piece that I am mentioning below, and believe me people, it is the FINEST description of love that I have ever read. These are the lyrics of the song "You owe me nothing in return" by Alanis Morissette. Before listening to this song, i happened to read the lyrics and the effect they had on me is enormous. It was just 10 minutes ago when I was doing research on these words that I discovered that it is a song. I would still urge you all to read these words before you listen to them. They are AWESOME. If you have the heart to love someone this way, only then, in my opinion, are you strong enough for love, for this is how love is supposed to be. Here it goes and as you read it, think if you can ever even imagine saying all this to someone you love:

"I'll give you countless amounts of outright acceptance, if you want it. I will give you encouragement to choose the path that you want, if you need it. You can speak of anger and doubts, your fears and freak outs, and I'll hold it. You can share your so-called shame filled accounts of times in your life, and I won't judge it; and there are no strings attached to it...

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give. You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have. I give you thanks for receiving it, it's my privilege, and you owe me nothing in return.

You can ask for space for yourself, and only yourself, and I'll grant it. You can ask for freedom as well, or time to travel, and you'll have it. You can ask to live by yourself or love someone else and I'll support it. You can ask for anything you want, anything at all, and I'll understand it; and there are no strings attached to it.

I bet you're wondering when the next payback shoe will eventually drop. I bet you're wondering when my conditional police will force you to cough up. I bet you wonder how far you have now danced you way back into debt. This is the only kind of love, as I understand it, that there really is.

You can express your deepest of truths even if it means I'll lose you, and I'll hear it. You can fall into the abyss on your way to your bliss, I'll empathize with. You can say that you have to skip town to chase your passion, and I'll hear it. You can even hit rock bottom, have a mid-life crisis, and I'll hold it; and there are no strings attached to it.

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give. You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have. I give you thanks for receiving it, it's my privilege, and you owe me nothing in return" —Alanis Morissette 

This is how, as I understand, love is and this is how it is supposed to be. Totally unalloyed, pure, selfless, compassionate and detached.


  1. wow ... the lyrics ... great .. it cleared lots of doubts

  2. This is what i feel about true love. It's sort of a prayer.

  3. This is exactly what i think about true love. it's sort of a prayer.


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