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Beautiful people do not just happen

"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."
-- Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross

I recently came across this quote and instantly fell in love with it! This is actually the real truth behind that every heart we call beautiful :) These are not the people with the perfect face or the finest of features or the fittest body...NO. These are just simple people who have a compassionate heart. Were they compassionate since their birth? No, they were not. They have faced the same life that we all do. The difference is that, when they were hurt, they did not close their hearts, instead, they let the pain enter their body, they felt it, lived with it, made peace with it and hence, understood what it feels like to be in pain and resolved not to put someone else in the same situation. These smiling and compassionate people are well aware of the feeling of being misunderstood,  being rude to, being typecast-ed...and hence, they have just chosen not to put anyone else in that state and this exercise alone is the basic foundation which made them the kind, understanding, compassionate and sensitive individuals that they are today.

These people have spent innumerable nights crying themselves to sleep. They have seen times when not a single person believed in them. Their life was never perfect and it was never easy either. Perhaps, these people have had one of the toughest lives, but they survived and did not let the negativity around them enter their heart....and ironically, they did this because they lived their lives with an open heart. They were as open to pain, hurt and betrayal as they were to love, loyalty and appreciation. They always choose to live their life by their heart, not their mind and they never regretted this. In fact, they knew that their this approach will surely make them go through pain, that this path would be tough, but they also knew that this is the ONLY way to understand life, to understand people and to understand the complexities of life.

This is what life is all about. Living with an open heart. And this is not being weak, this is just a journey towards the path of being strong and beautiful at the same time. So, there is no reason to avoid this journey in the pretext of being practical or safeguarding ourselves from being hurt. Such kind of safeguarding will act like nothing but a slow poison, deteriorating our soul and overtime, turning us in to insensitive individuals.


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